Glycerin-Free
Babelicious lubes are all glycerin-free, which means that they are safe for you to use on your genitals, including for oral sex or penetrative sex. Most flavored lubricants do have glycerin in them however and could cause yeast infections in women who are prone to them. Glycerin also has a laxative effect if used anally. Being glycerin-free means that BabeLicious lube is one of the rare fully-sex-safe flavored lubricants.




Paraben-Free
Babelicious Lubricants are also paraben-free. It is important to avoid parabens in sex toys because the genital area has many mucous membranes, which will easily absorb chemicals leaching out of toys. Parabens have been linked to allergic reactions, breast cancer, and estrogenic effects similar to those of BPA.

Compatible Toy Materials:
Babelicious is water-based, which means that it is safe to use with any type of sex toy material, even silicone.

The Bottle:
The Dulce De Leche lubricant comes in a medium-sized 2oz bottle. It has a pop-open cap with a small hole in the center to help modulate the amount you dispense.



Taste:
I have only tasted flavored lube once before and hadn't been particularly thrilled with it, but the idea of a flavored lubricant appealed to me and I was motivated to try it again so I spent a lot of time prowling around online for an appealing lube with delicious-sounding flavors.

I was pleased that the Babelicious Dulce De Leche had so much flavor! It was definitely more powerful than a flavored lip balm though not as strong as the food itself would have tasted. The flavor was very pleasant and I ended up wanting to use it again the next time I was with my partner. It's now become a bedside staple.

Color:
The color of the Dulce De Leche lube is a light tawny color, primarily transparent.

Scent: 
When you're dispensing the lube you don't really smell it and I didn't detect a scent to the bottle when I first got it, probably due to the secure way it was sealed. After being in a bedside drawer for a few days that whole drawer began to smell like candy and it's always a pleasant surprise to catch a whiff of Caramel when I reach in for something.

Consistency:
The Babelicious lubricant isn't sticky at all. It's got a very smooth and almost watery consistency similar to what I have come to expect from water-based lubes but a little bit thicker so that it sort of sits in a gel layer.

Oral Use:
Ordinarily I am not very fond of performing oral. It's just not my thing, but I was willing to try different varieties of lube that may make it more fun or enjoyable. The first time I used Babelicious I really enjoyed it and every time then after was just as fun as the first.

This has definitely made a positive impact on my sex life and I am sure my partner appreciates it as well!

Unlike other lubes which would sometimes (accidentally) get in my mouth, this one doesn't cause any unpleasant sensations. Other lubes sometimes cause tingling, numbness, rapid saliva production, etc but there weren't any drawbacks to using this lube, it's perfect for anyone wanting to add a little flavor to their sex life!

Penetrative Use:
After oral my partner and I had sex without applying any more lubricants so we could see how Babelicious did as a lube when there was more friction. Overall I would say I like it just as well as any other lubricant for that purpose, but it's so tasty I would rather save it for when I will enjoy it the most.


Pros: Tastes very good, safe with all toy materials, no odor, doesn't leave a stain, perfect for oral OR penetrative purposes, glycerin-free and paraben-free

Cons: None that I found

Summary: This lube was perfect for every possible usage and didn't raise any concerns. It is the most body-friendly lube I have ever used and I will definitely be sticking with this brand in the future.

If you've read my Tumblr post here you've come in search of the full article. If not, I recommend you checking out my Tumblr because I update it a bit more often than my blog because I will sometimes put up just a little picture or a short update, and it has a link to my Twitter account as well as notifying you whenever I post something up on my blog.

At any rate, this post is a How-To Guide on how to safely stretch yourself to take larger toys, whether you enjoy playing vaginally or anally.

Many people who enjoy penetrative sex, whether with a partner or not, whether with a toy or a cock or a finger, may enjoy the feeling of fullness or stretching. Sometimes you get used to the size you are accustomed to and would like something a bit bigger, or want a new toy but know it's larger than what you've been practicing with.

At the same time, there is a misconception that by having anything large inside yourself, you risk "becoming loose". While many people may believe that, it is simply not true. It's mostly a concern people have about vaginal sex, but it applies to anal too.



The Myth: If you keep putting things inside yourself, eventually your body will stretch to accommodate them and you will stop being tight and become "loose".

The Truth: There are many people who enjoy very frequent penetration while still remaining quite tight. In fact, if your body could not "spring back" from having things inside it, there would be no "potty trained" adults. We would all be so loose from the hundreds of times we have had bowel movements that none of us would be able to control our bathroom habits or "hold it" when we need to go.



All About Muscles
As you can see in the chart above, the anus and vagina are each surrounded by muscles. That is because even though they are both entries into the body, they are composed of rings of muscles.

Muscles can expand as well as contract. Take your right arm and extend it out straight. The bicep is expanding, while the tricep contracts. Now take your elbow and bend it so your hand touches your shoulder. The tricep expands and bicep contracts, each switching their role to help you make the next movement.

No matter how many times you do that, neither your bicep nor your tricep will ever become "loose" and remain in the expanded position.


Your Genital Muscles
The muscles of the vagina and the anus work the same way. When you slowly insert something large, you are expanding that muscle- stretching it out, and when you do Kegel exercises by squeezing tightly like you are trying to stop the flow of urine or prevent a bowel movement, you are contracting those muscles.

If you are worried that you will lose some muscle tone, simply practice your Kegels to keep the muscles nice and strong. Just like a muscle in any other part of the body, healthy PC muscles should be able to expand and contract without an issue.



When Problems Arise
The only time that your muscles cannot contract properly is if they have been torn. When the muscle rips, there can be little gaps in between the fibers and these will eventually form scar tissue to hold everything together. The more times your muscles rip, the more scar tissue will form.

Picture a double stuffed Oreo cookie. Instead of having a tiny, thin amount of white filling it has a whole lot. The cookie has a wider space between each half.

Now picture each time someone stretches too roughly, without enough lube, too quickly and forms scar tissue. That scar tissue is healing them, but it takes up space in addition to the muscle that was already there. Eventually the ring of muscle can have a lot more material around it in a circle, forming an O instead of an o.




So What Do I Do?
If you want to stretch yourself to take large toys easily and without a problem, you need to make sure you do not hurt yourself so your body will not make scar tissue. That is a very simple thing to remember, but unfortunately sometimes people do not have the patience to go slowly, or they do not use enough lube, or they force things to fit which their body is not ready for.

Step One:
You need to be calm and relaxed. Muscle tightness and spasms are an involuntary reaction to stress, tension and general lack of relaxation. Do whatever it takes to put you in a good frame of mind. Play music you enjoy, take a hot bath first, lay around and relax, ask your partner for a massage, use lotion, anything.

It can also help to be feeling sexy, so if lingerie or a steamy book or erotic movie will help, go for it! Remember to really give it your all. This isn't frivolous and your mental state really does have an impact on how your body will react.

Step Two:
Get yourself ready. Make sure you have a lot of lube on hand, perhaps one or two different varieties, as well as a variety of smaller toys which you know you can take, and the one you are working up toward. If you do not have any toys small enough to use, try starting out with a finger or two and eventually you can see how many fingers you can fit into yourself.

Do not force anything into you. If it doesn't fit, let it go. Stop, you can always try again later. It helps to have toys with a rounded or tapered end, like the ones shown at the top of the page.

Bad Dragon also makes a toy called The Tailstretcher, which is a very gradual slope from narrowest to thickest and you can slowly and carefully begin putting it deeper and deeper into you, which will mean you are taking thicker and thicker girth.

Step Three:
Begin by lubing yourself up very well. There is literally no such thing as too much lube. You cannot use so much lube that it hurts you, but using too little can cause friction that prevents your body from stretching well.

Do not use glycerin-based lubes as they can cause yeast infections in some women and can have a laxative effect if used anally.You also do not want to use a silicone-based lubricant with a silicone toy. Only use water-based lubricants with silicone toys and save silicone-lube for skin to skin contact or toys not made from silicone.

Once you have lubed yourself thoroughly, proceed to lubricate the toy as well. This is to minimize friction as much as possible.

Step Four:
Taking things very slowly, work in your finger. Only as much as you feel comfortable with. If it gets uncomfortable at all, stop and hold still. If you feel a lot of discomfort or even the most minimal amount of pain, stop and remove your finger.

For those who are already used to larger objects, start off with a toy in a size that you know you can take with no discomfort.

After a while, you will begin to feel completely comfortable with whatever you are using. Only when you feel 100% comfortable and no longer feel like you are being stretched, move up to something slightly larger.

Step Five:
Each time you feel like you can take more, repeat the process. Add a little lube to yourself if you could use any, and always lube the new toy up really well or put more lube on your hand if stretching yourself out with your fingers.

If you stop and decide to start again the next day or later on in the week, you will notice that you cannot start off where you ended the last session. That is excellent news! It means you haven't formed scar tissue and your muscles tightened back up, so you can slowly and gently stretch them out again. Always be kind to your body and never do something you aren't ready for. As long as you take it slow and easy you will always be able to keep using large toys without damaging your body or sacrificing your tightness.


My Experience (Pretty Detailed):
I have been experimenting with stretching out and taking large toys for a while now. Initially anything 6" or more in girth was a massive challenge for me. It could take me half and hour to work up to that girth, but over time I have been able to work up to it in 15-20 minutes, though it always takes warm up. That's fine with me because I have also maintained my tightness.

Until I met my current partner I would never have considered myself a size queen (or king for that matter), but we have been experimenting with fisting through time. Initially it was impossible for me to take his entire fist but through gentle stretching over time I am now able to be fisted, and it is not painful at all.

This has taught me a lot about patience and listening to my body. Sometimes it can take up to 60 minutes for him to work his entire fist into me, and I am perfectly fine with it. Other days we can do it in 20 or 30 minutes, however it never seems to take less time than that.

There are days when he can work on stretching me for upwards of an hour and my body simply will not cooperate at that point in time, which is fine. We listen to my body and respect my limitations and I always keep moving forward.

Remember, patience and persistence is key and if you treat your body right, it will work out for you :)

The Hitachi Magic Wand is very easy to use. Simply plug the power cord into a wall outlet and then flip the switch in the center of the handle either to High or Low (marked only with an H and an L).

The neck of the Wand shimmies back and forth, making the top rotate slightly one way and then the other way. When I had first heard about the Hitachi it had sounded so unpleasant to me because I thought the motor would cause the tip to spin a full 360 degrees like a tire, but that is not the case. The movement is similar to other vibrators, just much stronger and they are deep, rumbly vibrations.

If you find that the Hitachi is too strong for you, try pulling on a pair of underwear or a blanket to cover yourself and put the Hitachi on the other side to slightly lessen the vibrations.

The Hitachi Magic Wand is very easy to use. Simply plug the power cord into a wall outlet and then flip the switch in the center of the handle either to High or Low (marked only with an H and an L).

The neck of the Wand shimmies back and forth, making the top rotate slightly one way and then the other way. When I had first heard about the Hitachi it had sounded so unpleasant to me because I thought the motor would cause the tip to spin a full 360 degrees like a tire, but that is not the case. It just feels like any other vibrator but much stronger.

If you find that the Hitachi is too strong for you, try pulling on a pair of underwear or a blanket to cover yourself and put the Hitachi on the other side to slightly lessen the vibrations.